Sunday 18 November 2012

THE FORLORN WATCH PORN

I went to a youth convention this week end.  I was there to discuss  my photography.  In the corner, I overheard a conversation about porn on the internet.  The boys were saying that porn was better and cheaper than taking a girl out for dinner. They were often given a huge head ache by the women in their lives. They feel shame about wanting sex. In any case they said they had to pay for everything, and at the end of it, not so much as a cuddle.  They were all about 25, good looking and all complaining.  Men are as we know programmed to have sex with as many partners as possible, to procreate. The advice I was given, was to watch sites on line which were easier and as good as making love.
I am an appalling romantic. When I was very young there was nothing better than walking the streets of London holding hands, sharing a coffee, laughing over a film, and falling into bed kissing. I asked them about the sites without looking too interested, they were sniggering, but one boy was helpful. I told him I was going to do an article about it and he showed me the sites on his I phone. I felt I was completely out of  touch. I knew it existed, but its only when you watch it that you  really understand how big the world is.
I got back home and turned on the screen to a couple of sites. I immediately understood, if I were a man I would probably do the same. The girls were live, pretty, perfect, porn stars, looking as if they were in the comfort of their bedroom. The photographs explicit, very real and with a nothing left to the imagination.  Men could imagine making out with her and probably prefer it to taking out someone they know. For very little cost you could see a more pornographic show in the privacy of your bedroom, more exotic than Thailand. The girls can chat with you.  You can become friends with them. All alive in a brash, crazy way. Rather like a pornographic Facebook.
Lonely men  and women could imagine being in love with them. In fact the sites were for both sexes and there are as many women as men watching them.
However there is a downside of course,  Internet porn is killing mens libido causing erectile dysfunction so a report on you tube  by Gary Wilson says. 
They do not teach people to communicate normally . In some cases men are finding it difficult to make love with real women because they find the net less complicated, the real girls in the their life not as attractive and nothing excites them. Men naturally want to have sex with many women as possible and women want men to be faithful. Women go out of their way to be as manipulative as possible while reading self help books. They know what a man needs is an uncomplicated physical seeing to, but they want marriage and children. We are programmed differently.
If you want to see more of me, I hate to bore you but I do not have that kind of website, you will have to hold my hand and bring me a rose.  I shall keep to the past and hold hands with my real life heroes and look forward to naturally being attracted to someone in a normal way. So boys if you wish to be turned on, turn off the porn and feel the real. 

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